Reasons for Making New Friends–And How To
Their can be endless reasons for making new friends. Friends are a great, big necessity of life.
So how many friends do you have? If your answer is “many” you’re probably a very happy person. However, if sometimes you feel like you need to be out making new friends, then you aren’t that happy. And that’s what friends can do! They dictate your happiness. Often, the number of friends a person has is an accurate indicator of their happiness. In addition, it reveals their sociability and can clearly show whether or not they are agreeable and warm. So if you don’t have many friends, you need to check a few of your personal traits. You’ll be amazed how many negative personality traits you have.
Before we list the golden rules, it is important to first note the benefits of friends. There’s a score of advantages that come with having an army of friends. Due to the great number of these advantages, only the main advantages are listed here.
Five main reasons for making new friends
Fun: Good friends drag you out to the beach/bar/park and give you the time of your life. They do it every single time you need them to. Furthermore, they get to notice when you need this fun more than you notice yourself. Friends are fun and fun is friends.
Sharing: When there’s a crazy weight to get off your chest, who iss the first person you call or visit? Yep. Your best friend. Some call their parents and brothers. It doesn’t matter, that person you first turn to, they are your best friend.
Support: Heartbreak. A lost job. Sickness. All these are situations that call for support. You get it from none other than your friends. In fact, it is common to hear people say that friends support them more than family.
Company: Do I have to explain this? Company is the main reason why we have friends. The crazy friend, the timid one, the eating one and the dancing one. We keep them all for the different varieties of company they offer.
Advice: Sometimes when you cannot wrap your head around a problem you turn to a friend. Maybe they’ve been through a similar problem. Perhaps, they are that one person whose instruction always gets you through. Whatever the situation, friends are always to be trusted for valuable advice.
Making new friends is both an easy and complex affair. While a negative personality is the main cause of failure at making new friends, ignorance too can be a problem. Also, some people are really good at heart but just can’t bring themselves to have good company. No matter your reasons, the seven golden tips below will change you. You’ll be making new friends five minutes after you read this.
Do not brag
Nothing will chase away potential new friends faster than your braggadocio. People think that bragging makes them seem superior, interesting and therefore attractive. However, bragging only makes you appear impolite and full of yourself. Even if you meet a thousand people all of whom are out to make new friends, you’ll still fail. You’ll go home without making new friends if you brag because every new person you meet labels you a “Braggart”.
Nobody wants to hang out and go places with a braggart because braggarts beat people down. Worse still, after you brag you’ll have made a very strong bad first impression that you’ll probably never change. Maybe you have a house in the sky and an island all to yourself. It doesn’t matter. Don’t tell anyone that isn’t your friend yet. Be humble. Interact with people at their level. Only then can you appeal to them.
I might have said “change your nature” in the second golden tip above. That applies if your nature comprises of more negative than positive traits. However, do not try to be something else if you are a good, warm and happy person. Genuineness is one of the rarest and most attractive qualities you can find in a new person. Therefore, if you laugh out loud at jokes, please laugh out loud. If you do not drink beer, don’t drink just so you can bond with a bunch of cool guys. If you change to be liked, then you like to be changed. That’s a saying you should always tell yourself as you head out in the hope of making new friends.
Do not be negative
Expression is a must when we are making new friends. But hey, don’t be too quick to say the negative stuff. In fact, do not say the negative stuff at all. For instance, you may really dislike ISIS. Everyone dislikes ISIS, right? In your expression, you may then say “I hate that Islamic extremist group, ISIS!”.
Truly speaking, 99% of the world hates ISIS. It’s Islamic and extremist, that much is true. However, in your expression, you’ve mentioned the religion of Islam. The person you’re talking to may be a very good person and potential friend, but a Muslim. If he is sensitive, you’ll hurt his feelings without even knowing it. As a result of voicing your negativity, you may blow your chance at a great friendship. Therefore, do not express your dislikes. In addition, be careful not to take sides and opinions on sensitive issues like race.
Be out going and keep contact
The last golden rule specifically targets the people without negative traits but a deep inability to find company. First and foremost, go out. GO OUT!! You cannot be living your weekends on the couch flipping through T.V channels and expect to meet new people. Social media doesn’t help much either. Therefore, put on some nice jeans and a tee-shirt and go watch the football game at the pub for a change. Next time you go to the salon, strike up a conversation with the hair stylist.
You’ll be surprised just how many friends you can make. Secondly, making new friends takes some effort. So after you exchange contacts, call the new people you meet and invite them to something interesting you do. Invest your time in them and they’ll invest theirs in you. In conclusion, making new friends takes some work so you’ve got to be willing.
The rules above hold for each and every single person who thinks they should be making new friends. However, most of the rules require some practice and will take some time to perfect. Owing to the fact that you’ve had some bad habits, you can only master these new tips through practice.
Now, go out and make a ton of new friends. It’s easier than you think. Why? Because you’re human, and humans are the most social of animals!